How to tell a guy about menstruation?
Today, many women hardly manage to talk about the monthly, despite the fact that the society has long been free to discuss any problems. When it comes to menstruation, the girls feel uneasy, they are nervous and try to speak quietly, because the whole world has formed the opinion that monthly it is always dirt and a bad smell. Menstruation - this is a familiar week for every woman, they should not be ashamed. Talking to the opposite sex about critical days is difficult, but if the relationship with a man is expensive, then it's worth talking about monthly. And that's why most girls ask themselves: "How do I tell a guy that I have a period?"
To guys of different ages need a special approach, and sometimes, girls behave too liberated with inexperienced partners, which confuses the latter. This conversation is necessary so that the guy does not take offense at the fact that the girl avoids sexual contact or behaves aggressively towards him. The guy needs to be ready for the period when his beloved will have critical days.
Talking with a young guy
Before talking with a guy about menstruation, you need to consider the length of the relationship. With people with whom the girl is familiar for a long time, it is easier to share personal problems. Consider the possible reaction of the guy. If in the past he had to embarrass a girl or he shared similar questions with his friends, then it is worth refraining from talking about monthly.
There must be a reason why a girl wants to tell a guy about menstruation. She should ask herself the question of whether it somehow affects their relationship, whether she can restrain her emotions and not be angry with the guy. If the answer to these questions is positive, the conversation should definitely be held so that the young man knows that his guilt is not in the situation.
An inexperienced partner should be cautious and talk softly about menstruation. When talking, you need to explain that once a month, girls have abdominal pain and sudden mood swings. Teenagers especially do not need to talk in detail about women's physiology, especially using scientific terms or euphemisms ("guests arrived from Krasnodar red days of the calendar the Red Army came ") - the guy will not understand this, it is necessary to speak with him extremely simply and at ease. Some experts advise not to report a loss of blood, but this depends on the degree of confidence in the young person.
During the conversation it is important to remain calm and good-natured. Roughness and aggression will cause the guy a sense of guilt for what he is not guilty of. Many girls are angry and because their beloved does not know about the monthly, and this often offends the guys.
Negative emotions will not help to introduce a young person into the course of the case, so you need to relax and for a while not let the emotions get out of control.
There is nothing strange, if the guy is embarrassed and will avoid the continuation of the conversation, do not take offense at it. For young and inexperienced guys, this topic is very delicate, as for many girls. But if the partner begins to behave rudely and says offensive words to the girl, it is necessary to put it in place and explain that menstruation is not a vice, and it indicates good health.
If during the conversation the guy wants to know more about the monthly, but the girl is too shy to tell, you should invite him to get acquainted with the information on the Internet.
How to behave with an experienced partner
An adult guy is easier to tell about a month, especially if he previously had a relationship with a girl who probably told him about the critical days. It is advisable to know in advance what the guy should say, prepare for the conversation. Not infrequently, girls start to worry and stammer, hardly choosing the right words. During the conversation you need to feel confident and do not be shy. Psychologists say that by discussing such topics, couples are getting closer, their trust in each other is growing.
There are several ways to report monthly:
- To say directly, without describing the details of the monthly, experienced guy, one phrase is enough to understand everything.
- You can use euphemisms, even a phrase like "I have these days" - will give the guy enough information, and he will not need clarification.
- If a girl and a guy are connected by long relationships, they should think up code words that will indicate the beginning of menstruation.
It is especially important to tell a partner about menstruation, if a girl and a guy are already having sex. Sexual intercourse is not prohibited during menstruation, although it is considered dirty and sloppy, so a guy may be against. Equally important is the attitude of the girl herself to having sex during this period. If the touch causes her irritation, it is better to wait for the end of the critical days and to refrain from sexual intercourse.
Sex can be replaced by kissing, embracing or other sexual pleasures. The main thing is not to do what you do not want. An adult partner is easier to explain that during this period there are some restrictions in sex. Many couples prefer not to wait for the end of menstruation and continue to have quiet sex, as during an intimate affair the girl feels less pain that she experiences with menstruation.
During sex you need to continue to be protected. Menstruation is not a guarantee that the girl does not become pregnant. Sperm remains in the body of a woman for 3-7 days, so that there is the possibility of fertilization of the egg (especially with a short menstrual cycle or hormonal failure). The use of condoms will also prevent infection with infection: during menstruation, the risk of transmission viruses is increased, since the volume of fluid that contacts pathogenic microorganisms, growing.
Monthly - this is normal
For a girl, menstruation is the usual period of her life, indicating her transition to adulthood and good health. Therefore, there is nothing shameful in the months and terrible in sharing this with loved ones, especially with a loved one. Negative reaction to critical days is possible, but in this case, the girl should not be upset, because this is not her fault.
If, nevertheless, when thinking about telling a guy about menstruation, there is a feeling of fear and shame, this indicates that the couple do not have enough trust and close relationships. The girl should think about this and about why she is still afraid to tell about the menstruation.